There’s this song by My Brightest Diamond called, “The Ice & The Storm”
I’ve always found it to be a song on communication and perhaps the lack there of.

The Ice, being a metaphor for miscommunication, builds up in our places of shared intimacy.
The Storm, being that of “hashing out” and conversation, is the force that drives us all to talk about our heart’s place within each other. 

And so it goes, the ice builds and builds until we are absolutely cold.
We wish for that storm, but have no way to go about it. 
Until…it happens.
The ice shatters and falls from our mouths like an avalanche. 

It is now that we begin to heal and confide within each other and remember our sacred places and our need to know each other fully.

I’m not some expert on marriage, nor do I know the secrets of its place in our lives, but I do know that without communicating to each other what you need and how you feel, that ice builds up awfully heavy. 

It is the thing we humans do best, but often forget how to do thoughtfully - active listening and giving. God forbid we know [at all times] what the other person is thinking. 
It’s the lesson I’m learning and fumbling through.

It’s amazing the weight of this ice, as it slowly chips away from our frustrated hearts into a place of understanding. After all, you know you both love each other deeply. I believe it is in our human nature to assume all too much from others in how we learn to understand the ones we choose to do life with. 

All this could be complete gibberish, as I’m still trying to figure it out myself. I’m not the best at communicating verbally, hence my introverted and quiet personality. It doesn’t mean that I can’t work on becoming a more thoughtful person…in listening and giving. 
Which I guess is what this is all about. 

A lot of marriage is giving and receiving and learning when to do both. I think that each, in and of itself, is crucial to a good relationship. You learn how it works when you live life with someone. 

I think we could all learn to be a bit more thoughtful in our interactions - and I place much of this into my own self, knowing good and well I can be a selfish sun’uva gun. 

And I hope some of this made sense, in the midst of my own processes, trying to figure out the ice and the storm…

and learning to, as the song says…

let it go.
let it go.
let it go.